Many of the ideas in this post were inspired by helpful strategies shared with our community by Friends School Haverford parent and pediatric psychologist, Angie Fayad. We are grateful for her insights and pleased to share them, along with our own perspective, to help you support your child this summer.
Build Familiarity and Comfort
Visiting school before the first day can make a world of difference in helping children feel at ease. If possible, take your child to see their classroom, cubby, playground, and other key spaces. Meeting their teacher in advance, or even looking at a photo together, helps children feel more connected and less uncertain. As you explore, talk through what they will do in each area, like where they will hang their backpack or eat lunch. These moments of familiarity can turn unknowns into reassuring routines, setting a positive tone for the school year.
Encourage Independence and Excitement
Giving your child chances to practice skills at home over the summer can boost their confidence. Invite them to put on their backpack, open their lunchbox, or use the bathroom by themselves so these tasks feel familiar on the first day. Involve them in preparing for school by letting them choose a backpack, their clothes for the day, or their lunchbox. These small decisions empower children and build enthusiasm for the start of school. Reading stories together about school experiences, such as The Kissing Hand or All Are Welcome, can also spark conversations about what to expect and help children imagine themselves having fun and making friends.
Support Emotional Readiness with Routines and Reassurance
Even with preparation, it is natural for children to have big feelings about starting school. Talking openly about what they might feel helps them know their emotions are normal. Create a goodbye ritual, such as a special hug, handshake, or playful phrase, to bring comfort and consistency at drop-off. If your child feels nervous, consider sending them with a small comfort item that reminds them of home. During drop-off, stay calm, validate their feelings, and remind them of strategies they can use to feel better, like taking deep breaths or asking a teacher for help. Most children adjust within a few weeks, especially when they see that school is a safe, caring place where grown-ups will always come back for them.
We’re Here to Support You
At Friends School Haverford, we believe that transitions can be opportunities for growth, resilience, and connection. By spending time this summer building familiarity, encouraging independence, and supporting your child’s emotional readiness, you can help set them up for a positive, joyful start to the school year. We look forward to welcoming your family soon and working together to make this transition a happy and successful one.